The Connected Child: Introduction of TBRI

Olivia is super passionate about equipping foster and adoptive parents to be the best healing agents they can be.

In this brief video, Olivia gives an overview of Trust Based Relational Intervention Therapy along with the primary book that is utilized in helping parents live out the concepts of empowering, connecting and correcting your child(ren).

Check it out, ask questions, get involved.

The Connected Child: TBRI and Why You Need This For Your Family


Be a Better Human: The Easiest Solution to Overcoming Anxiety and Being SUPER Productive

I get asked a lot of questions. A lot of similar questions.

Unfortunately, there is a serious LACK of good/knowledgable/quality mental health counselor’s who provide answers to common questions via youtube…blogging…social media.

The questions I get asked are heartfelt, genuine and often come from a place of desperation.

I hope you find the Humanwillperform youtube channel to be a helpful tool and resource. If you have questions and need answers, please shoot me an email or post your question to the channel discussion board and I’ll jump on it.

I love interacting with people. ­čÖé


Be A Better Human: The Easiest Solution to Overcoming Anxiety and Being SUPER Productive

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Crisis Text Line: Get HELP. NOW.

Crisis Text Line is meeting a huge need with adolescents and teenagers, right now.
In 2012, The CDC published a document stating that the 2nd leading cause of deaths in girls and young women 10-24 years old was suicide.
Suicide is continuously on the rise especially as we see an increase in electronics and social media.
Crisis Text Line was created out of a desperate need for adolescents and teens to confidentially  get help. fast.
By texting 741741 (24/7), you are linked to a professional counselor who can help and point you to local resources. Share this with your family and friends. You never know who might need it…

Your Daughter: What NOT to tell her about her body

I came across this beautiful article when a friend had shared it on facebook.

I had to share it with you.

What I love most about it is how simple it is. It doesn’t say anything too earth shattering but is a gentle reminder of how we, as moms/human beings, first talk to ourselves. If we choose to praise our daughter’s when they lose weight, dress up, or have a boyfriend it usually equates to “I am loved when I_____.”


Our daughters–our sons, too–should feel loved regardless. Right?
Choosing our words and reflecting their experience. That’s what we need to do. I have caught myself commenting on other’s weight gain, weight loss, or a big change in their life in a more negative way. Typically, this is indicative of how I perceive myself.

“I’m valuable/pretty/exciting/worthy/mentionable when I ______.”

Check out the article, gain some clarity. As a parent, a spouse, a daughter, a sister, a human being….we need to be able to say “I’m sorry, I messed up. Lets do a re-do.” Perhaps we will learn more about grace and forgiveness from our kids reflecting it back to us. Humbling.
You are more than what the world demands of you.  Read more, here.

what if i told you vulnerability wasn’t a weakness but one of your greatest strengths?

The following is a talk I gave on 02/10/2014 at a woman’s book study at Northland Church in Longwood, Fl. Much of what was discussed drew heavily on Brene Brown’s Daring Greatly. Enjoy!

I find Vulnerability to be a really great and fun topic but a really hard one, too. Even as I was preparing for this, I felt at different points over the last few weeks…“oh my gosh, I can’t do this. Oh my gosh, what am I doing?” You know, that shame of “no, no, no, you don’t have anything special to say.” So, I feel quite vulnerable giving a talk on vulnerability in a very ironic kind of way. But, in an effort to be even more vulnerable and to feel reallllyyy naked in front of y’all…I want to talk about a particular time in my life that is one of the most vulnerable pieces of who I am. I really believe that our lives are comprised of vulnerable moments…to be human is to be vulnerable.

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Top Source for Gay Sports

Top Source for Gay Sports

I’m been doing a bit of research on LGBT Sports for a new project and came across this fantastic website. Out Sports is the leading news source for all things LGBT in the sporting world. They seek to provide relevant knowledge as well as support for those who identify as L G B or T and are athletes, as well. As you know, being a lesbian, gay, or transgender individual in the sporting world is quite intense–to say the least. This is one website where athletes from all backgrounds and sexual orientations can come together and rally around each other for support and unity.

For the next few weeks, I’ll be posting new and informative resources for LGBT equality in the world of sports. Enjoy!


mind tracks

Have you ever had a day where as you lie in the liminal space between consciousness and unconsciousness thought, “maybe i’m just not enough.”

For most of us, we wouldn’t admit to audibly saying those things to ourselves. No. Of course not. I know I’m enough, are you kidding me? Look at me. I have friends. We go out and drink good wine. We laugh. I eat good food. My partner and I make love to one another…regularly. I have an awesome job. I’m skinny healthy.

Those are good things. Really good things. Blessings, even. Unfortunately, they all describe the external reality. They don’t get at the internal reality of what we say to ourselves on a daily, hourly, minute by minute basis…“you’re not good enough. you’re dumb. your work isn’t original. tons of other talented people are doing exactly what you’re doing. you’re deficient. don’t be courageous, you’ll fail. you’re a failure.”

These are the things that keep us down. That keep us from doing something extraordinary. From breaking free of our pain. From being promoted. From landing that dream job. From doing what our hearts have only dreamed of doing.

You are your biggest critic. Are you going to choose to keep playing those negative and divisive thoughts or are you going to do something different?

What would you want those tapes to play? Get it down, ink it.

New Group Class: Daring Greatly

I love group therapy. In my experience, it is less like traditional one-on-one therapy and more of an intentional space to learn and grow alongside others. With that, I have been truly amazed at the response that Brene Brown’s work “Daring Greatly” has received. To be honest, the content is quite gut-wrenching. I mean, she tackles the very essence of what most people struggle with–vulnerability. The receptivity of her work, though, is an indication of not only how important it is but how much we all struggle to be vulnerable in our own lives.

Our culture has taught us–ever so well– that to be “vulnerable” is to be weak. We can’t respect a man who openly cries in front of others. We can’t openly admit our addictions or struggles to others. It’s a sign of weakness. We do this with the hope that the “I-have-it-all-together” facade will help us climb the social and corporate ladders of life. We do this because vulnerability is too much of a risk.

What if, what if vulnerability is the greatest measurement of our courage? With over 12 years of research on shame, Brene Brown believes we have to walk through vulnerability in order to courageously love, live, and lead in our lives.

Join us on October 23, 2013 at 7pm at Open Doors Counseling as we seek to discover what this means and what this looks like for each of us as we walk through “Daring Greatly.” Please register by filling out the form below and providing us with your details so that we may be in touch prior to the first session. Really looking forward to journeying with you!

Due to the integrity of the group and to ensure confidentiality, this group is limited to 8 individuals. If the need arises, we will open up additional time slots. I’m offering an early bird registration of $30/per session or $240 for all 8 sessions if registered and paid by October 11. General registration ends October 18 and the fee increases to $40/per session. NOTE: All payments must be made prior to the beginning of each session.
Please mail check to Open Doors Counseling Center.